Let’s talk about something beautiful, natural, and (unfortunately) still too often hidden in whispers: masturbation.

At Ilo Wellness, we believe that pleasure is powerful—and that self-pleasure is one of the most intimate forms of self-care. So this month, we’re celebrating Masturbation May with tips and tender reminders that your body is yours to explore and adore.

But beyond just feeling good (which is reason enough, by the way), did you know that masturbation offers a range of health benefits—physically, mentally, and emotionally?

Here’s why making time for yourself might just be the ultimate wellness ritual!

Better Sleep, Naturally

Can’t wind down after a long day? Masturbation can help quiet the mind and relax the body by lowering cortisol and releasing feel-good hormones like oxytocin and dopamine. It’s a gentle, pleasure-based path to deeper rest—and we’re all about bedtime rituals that actually work.

Mental Health & Mindfulness

Solo sex is an act of presence. Studies show that masturbation can reduce stress and anxiety by engaging the parasympathetic nervous system (your “rest and digest” state). Even a few minutes can leave you feeling more grounded, clear-headed, and calm.

A Natural Mood Lift

Ever noticed how your mood can soften post-orgasm? That’s the power of endorphins! These natural mood-boosters help regulate emotions and leave you feeling lighter, more content, and sometimes even euphoric. The glow? It’s real.

Menstrual Cramp Relief

For many females, masturbation is a go-to comfort during menstruation. Orgasms increase blood flow and release tension in the pelvic region, which can help to ease cramps and improve overall menstrual wellbeing.

Pelvic Floor Health

Orgasms = muscle engagement. Masturbation can help tone and strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, which supports bladder control, sexual function, and long-term core stability. Think of it as Kegels... but make it fun.

The Ultimate in Self-Knowledge

When you know your own body, you’re better equipped to understand what you like, what feels good, and what doesn’t. That kind of self-awareness builds confidence—not just in solo play, but in how you approach intimacy with others. You can communicate clearly, set boundaries, and advocate for your pleasure. That’s confidence. That’s power. That’s yours.

At ILO, we’re here to celebrate the full spectrum of your sexual wellness—without shame, stigma, or apology. Masturbation isn’t “extra.” It’s essential. And this May, we invite you to reclaim your pleasure.

Because nurturing your whole self includes this part too.

By Kiara Sasha, @kiarasashasexologist